Most parents at some stage are driven to distraction by one or more of their childrens annoying habits or behaviours, whether it is a toddler who continually whines, a school-aged child who leaves clothes lying around or a teenager who uses a less than pleasant vocabulary.
How to affect change is a challenge for many parents. Do you ignore a childs annoying behaviour or do you pick up on it? A useful rule of thumb is to pick up on behaviours that are dangerous to the child himself or significantly infringe on the rights and comfort of others.
Also ask yourself: Is this behaviour reasonable for the childs age? For instance, it is reasonable to expect an eight year old not to disturb you while you are on the phone for twenty minutes but it is not reasonable to expect the same of a two year old.
It is also useful to take into account the childs current state of mind and what is going in on their lives that may be related to some unusual behaviour to occur at home.
The following four principles for changing your childs behaviour will be effective if you are both patient and persistent.
Principle one: Change your initial response first. This is...