Fill in the blanks in the above sentence however you want.
Have you heard this often?
Do you say it often?
Do you think it often?
This simple sentence is a contract that is often unconsciously created with people, and it can have a disastrous effect on your life.
Just the other day, a friend was telling me about her husband and the fact they had a weekend together without the children. She was telling me that if he brought her flowers and took her out for dinner, then she would feel loved and cared for.
Guess what, he didnt buy her flowers or take her out for dinner. He decided to sit in and read the new Harry Potter book!
And I wonder if you can guess how she felt?
Thats right. She felt rejected, unloved, unhappy and had a generally miserable weekend.
And of course, he was oblivious to all this and had no idea what he had done wrong!
Everyone creates unconscious contracts, from childhood through to adulthood. You create conditions which rely on other people to perform certain actions in order for you to feel certain emotions.
In fact, you often create the contracts with people and then dont even tell...