Im going to share a secret with you now, so just come a little bit closer.
Its a big secret and Im going to have to ask you to not tell anyone though, please. I know I can trust you on this.
The thing is, if you did tell anyone, particularly a therapist you might shatter their ego and perhaps they are not as ready as you are to be let in on this little secret.
I do a lot of work one to one with people, and after a session, or some times later, they will say to me, I cant believe you made me do or I cant believe you made me change
And this is in spite of me telling them before a session, I cant make you do anything you dont want to do, you are the one that does all the work here.
In fact, its not just in therapy session, but its in life you hear people say, You made me
You must have heard people saying it, You made me drop that You made me lose that You made me feel that. I know I have. In fact, I know I have even said things like this, I probably still do on occasion!
See, as a therapist, I dont actually make you do anything. I cant make you do anything you dont want to do. If I could then Id be retired by now as the most...