No matter how one looks at it, success and respect come in the form of other people, perhaps even complete strangers. Rare is it in today’s world that success will happen in total isolation. No surprise that some of the most successful and respected individuals know a thing or two about how to deal with others. The ability to communicate and influence others’ way of thinking, and to actually transform their opinions, is an invaluable life skill.
The obstacle of attaining this life skill is one that everyone faces. Anger, selfishness, and pride all work against our better judgment. The idea is to become proactive, to work toward a resolution rather than toward your own base desires; which will come under fire the more it conflicts with other desires; and so on, until it comes full circle. Disagreements add more fuel to the fire, until neither party is able to influence the other. To be proactive means to step back from the situation, and to examine it from a different angle. Chances are you want your way simply because, well, it’s your way. Consider the fact that the other person thinks the same. So be proactive and negotiate yourself out of a one-way...