Healthy Selfishness: Put Yourself On Your To Do List

Are You Last on the List?

When was the last time taking care of yourself or doing something just for fun made it to the top of your to do list? If your answer is a “long time ago” or “can’t remember” or even “never,” you’re not alone.

From the time we were children, many of us were taught “don’t be selfish” and “think of others.” We may have learned these lessons a little too well. Most of us spend all the hours of our day taking care of others, completing the to-do list, fulfilling obligations, and doing what we “should” do. Taking care of ourselves is last on the list if it’s on the list at all.

The truth is this doesn’t work! If you ignore your own needs long enough you’re likely to become drained, dissatisfied, exhausted, and maybe even resentful. When you’re not refilling your own personal tank, it becomes increasingly difficult to give to others. Without recharging you won’t have the energy to be your best self at home or in the world.

Put Yourself First

Many of my clients come to me with empty tanks. While they may be...