Im such a jerk. How could I have said that?
Im a looser. Ill never get anywhere.
Im so stupid. I should have learned this by now.
I dont fit in. I dont belong with these people.
Ill never be good enough. Ill never do it right enough.
Im permanently emotionally damaged. Ill never be okay.
No one could love me. Im not lovable.
and so on and so on.
Are you aware of your self-judgments? Are you aware of how often you judge yourself as bad, wrong, or inadequate? Are you aware of how you end up feeling as a result of your self-judgments?
In my counseling work with people, I find that self-judgment is one of the major causes of fear, anger, anxiety and depression. Yet most people dont realize that these painful feelings are the result of their own thoughts, their own self-judgments. Most of the time, when I ask an anxious client why they are feeling anxious, they tell me that its because of something that happened to them. They usually believe that an event or a person caused their anxiety. Yet when I ask them what they are thinking that might be causing their anxiety, they will tell me a self-judgment such as, Ill never get...