One of the questions I receive most often from my newsletter subscribers is what do I do when I’ve “blown it?” As one good friend said: “I forgot all the great ways I know to address a conflict. I reprimanded an employee by basically attacking her character. I did apologize, and, thankfully, she is not quitting. But things feel awkward, and I’m wondering if there’s something I can do to help the situation besides apologize.”
First, this person did just the right thingshe apologized, and she didn’t wait too long to do it. It’s important to remember that we all react occasionally in ways that we think better of later. Once you apologize, give it time. Continue to center, breathe, smile, and treat the employee with respect.
In addition, hold the vision that with time your relationship will be back on the right track. Visualize how you want the relationship to look as you continue to work together, and begin acting on that vision in your daily communication.
Think of a physical wound–it takes time to heal. While it’s healing, you treat the wound gently, keep it clean,...