Whether its called stress management, relaxation training, or its newest incarnation, Resiliancy, it seems that the question of healthy response to the stress of daily life is on everyones mind. But its important to remember a few things about stress that are rarely discussedif known at all!
1) Stress wont hurt you. Hans Selye, the father of stress was a polylinguist, whose first language was not English. Before he died, he said that, had his command of English been more precise, he would have been known as the Father of Strain rather than stress. Whats the difference? Enormous, from an engineering standpoint. Stress is pressure divided by unit area, whereas strain is measured in deformation per unit length. In other words, while strain speaks to the load you are carrying, strain deals with the degree to which that load warps you out of true. In other words, it is NOT stress that hurts you. It is strain.
2) Stress is necessary for life and growth. Far from being something you avoid, when healthy, the body and mind respond to environmental stress by becoming stronger. Look at this in the arena of physical fitness. Imagine a triangle with each of the three corners...