Amanda and Ron had been married for six years and had two small children. I had counseled them during some difficult times in their marriage, but had not heard from them for a while. Then Amanda scheduled an emergency phone session with me. She was very upset.
I just found out that Rons been watching porno on the Internet and lying to me about it. I had thought this was going on a couple of weeks ago because of a site I found on the computer, but when I asked him about it, he denied it and explained it away. He is not too computer savvy he doesnt know how to delete the sites – and today I found a number of sites he has visited. I cant believe this! Im very upset about the porno, but Im devastated that he lied to me! I feel like the trust has gone out of our marriage, and without trust, what do we have? Why did he lie to me?
Amanda, how would you have responded if he had told you the truth?
I would have been really upset and disappointed in him. I probably would have gotten angry. We have a good sex life, so why is he using porno?
Well, he lied to you because he knew that this is the way you would have reacted. His lying is his way of...