Is it possible to be using our children addictively?
Anything that we use to get love, avoid pain, and fill up inner emptiness can become an addiction even our children! If your children are your whole life if you dont have a strong spiritual connection with a personal source of love and guidance, as well as other relationships and interests that you are passionate about, you might be using your children to fill an empty place within you.
If you dont have a partner or your relationship with your partner is not fulfilling to you, and you dont have deeply connected and meaningful friendships, then you might be using your kids as your major emotional connection. If you dont have hobbies or work that are compelling and fulfilling to you, you might be using your children to give meaning to your life. If you dont have a daily spiritual practice that brings love and comfort to your soul, you might be using your children to fill this need.
If this is what you are doing, it is not good for your children. It is a huge burden on children to be responsible for their parents loneliness and sense of purpose. Children who feel this responsibility often become...