Are You Letting Your Children Manipulate You?

Rachael is the young mother of Nathan, who just turned two. Rachael is a stay-at-home mother who works part-time at home and has the help of a housekeeper five days a week. Rachael consulted with me because of her problems with Nathan.

When Nathan is with David (her husband), hes fine. He adores David and listens well to him. When hes with Amalia (her housekeeper), hes fine. He loves her and plays calmly with her. But when hes with me, hes impossible. He throws temper tantrums when he doesnt get his way. He goes to sleep easily at night for David but not for me. I want so much to be a good mother and I cant figure out what Im doing wrong. I never get angry with him but sometimes I feel like throwing him across the room! I need help!

Rachael, when you are with Nathan, what do you think is more important to you to get him to love you or to be loving to yourself?

Rachael replied instantly. To get him to love me. I never think about loving myself. I just want him to love me. If he loves me, then I know that Im a good mother.

And what does it say about you if you are a good mother?

It means that Im okay,

So you have handed to Nathan the job...