Baggage Handling – And Not The Kind You Take On Vacation!
My friend Susan, a beautiful, intelligent and successful professional single, recently announced that her tumultuous 6-month relationship was over.
“He’s got too much baggage and I don’t know how to handle it”, she explained over a skinny decaf latte at our weekly hangout session.
So how much baggage is too much, and when do we hang out the “overloaded” sign?
It’s a fact of life that any man over the age of 30 is going to bring some sort of baggage to a relationship. Heck, I know 20-year-olds with more baggage than the Orient Express!
And it follows that the older we get, the more likely it is that the baggage is going to exponentially increase — ex wives, children, stepchildren, in-laws, lifestyles or commitments, just to name a few. But it’s not about how much baggage he has, it’s more about how he (and we!) deal with it.
Kathryn Bigelow, behavioral scientist and director of the Burnett Behavioral Science Unit at Sydney University in Sydney, Australia says, “Baggage is merely a name for our collective past...