Its easy to blame our parents for how we are:
“How can I be successful and happy when my father always told me I wouldnt amount to much?”
“My mother was never a role model for a happy, healthy woman.”
“No one ever showed me love when I was a child, so how can you expect me to have good relationships now?”
“I was sexually abused by my father so everythings wrong with my life now.”
“No one ever expressed emotions in our family; they still dont, so dont expect me to be demonstrative.”
“My brother was always the favourite, so no wonder Im insecure.”
Does any of this sound familiar? May be not those exact words, but do you find yourself justifying who and what you are by what your parents did or didnt do? Its easy, because it allows us not to make any
effort to change, but its hard because it means we stay where we are in our pain and anger.
But stop a minute and think: if youre blaming your parents for how you are, you have to blame their parents for how they are. Its not logical to say theyre to blame for how I am and for how they are.
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