Im sure youre hearing the term Emotional Intelligence. Its being talked about a lot these days. For most people theres an immediate click. We recognize it as the missing piece!
Its like that cartoon of the girl saying, Oh, I knew I forgot something. A career! Well, in this case, we become aware that someone, somewhere along the line forgot to tell us how to be smart about our emotions. At least in words we could understand!
But then again are you or are you not smart about your emotions? You see we dont even know how to assess how we are with our emotions. It simply hasnt been talked about in ways that makes sense and would allow us to use the information we receive.
If someone says, Youre too reactive, what does that mean? In relation to what or to whom? And arent they usually talking more about themselves? Usually they mean Youre more reactive than I am or Youre more reactive than Id like you to be. They may be the kind of person who could have a firecracker go off next to them and not react, but what does that mean in relation to their ability to function and relate? Not much!
And then the next day youll have a pounding headache, or have been up...