We all get angry sometimes. It is a natural reaction to events that lead us to believe that we deserve better or someone has wronged us and we feel that they absolutely must not do that to us as it is not fair and undeserved. But what is anger?
“Chances are good that if you do have a problem with anger, you already know it. If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, you might need help finding better ways to deal with this emotion.” — The American Psychological Association.
Anger can be caused by internal and external events. These events are usually seen as out of our control. I invite you to take responsibility for your emotions and particularly anger. People often say things like, “what he did made me furious!” or “that person really winds me up!”.
What does this tell us? What can we learn from this typical response to things that make us angry? What we can see is that people often place the blame at someone else’s door. It makes sense, after-all, we haven’t done anything to deserve being treated in a way that makes us feel angry. That is why we get angry. We feel...