Demanding children children who have entitlement issues seem to be common these days. Like the obnoxious child, Veruca Salt in Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory, who was constantly demanding that her father get her whatever she wanted (I want an Umpa Lumpa! Get it for me NOW!), we hear many children today uttering the fairly constant refrain, I want .! Give it to me! Get it for me, now! They seem to be masters at instilling guilt in their parents through phrases such as Its not fair! or You dont love me! or What about what I want?, or by getting angry, shutting down or crying piteously.
Why are there so many demanding children?
Olivia grew up with a self-centered demanding critical mother who never let her have her feelings. Olivia learned early to take responsibility for her mothers feelings by being a good girl. Now, as a parent herself, and not wanting to do to her children what her mother did to her, she has gone the other way. Rather than being demanding and self-centered, she is compliant and self-sacrificing. Rather than being an authoritarian parent like her mother was, she is a permissive parent, giving in to her childrens demands rather than...