At some stage in your life, you’ve probably been told not to count your chickens before they have hatched. You were probably told to not get your hopes up and to not expect too much – just in case you might be disappointed. For most of us this, or some variation of it, was told to us over and over again by well meaning, but ill informed people. From an early age the idea of staying in an emotional “safe zone” was instilled in most of us until it eventually became belief systems that now control our behaviours.
We live in a culture were the predominant psychology is based in fear. The fear of loss drives and motivates most people’s decisions and behaviours. From this mindset the culture invented mechanisms to protect itself and saying like “don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched” is but only and illustration of how the culture prepares and “grooms” us from an early age to settle for the lowest denominator. “Go for the lowest and easiest to make sure that you at least get something.” “Don’t expect too much, just in case you don’t get anything at all.” From this...