A reader of my articles wrote to me about the article I wrote entitled, Why do People Lie? He said that he would be very interested in a similar article with examples about all the lying that women do.At least in the initial stages of dating, women lie sooooo much.
Well, being a woman, Im not as aware of how much women lie on dates as I am of how much men lie on dates. So I decided to write about date lying in general.
The man who wrote to me was upset about lies such as I have to go, or Im busy, or Im on another call right now. Ill call you back. He states that I think that much of this is womens very misguided attempt to spare someones feelings. Reject them, without actually rejecting them.
I think this is accurate. Women have been trained to not hurt mens feelings. They have been taught that if the truth will hurt, then tell a white lie. And, when they do tell the truth, it is often in a harsh or critical way.
Ive often counseled women, who dont want to date a particular man, to say things like, I dont feel romantic toward you, or There doesnt seem to be chemistry between us, or Im not feeling a connection with you. One of my clients told a man...