Hearing that your cheating spouse is in love with someone else is devastating. I hear often, I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that. But, for her to give herself emotionally and love someone elseman, that is hard. (Feel free to substitute the word he for she in this article.)
What can you specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage?
So often the offended spouse reacts with intense feelings and pulls out all stops to win her back.
He applies pressure. Begs. Cajoles. Makes promises. Gets in her face. Sends flowers. Arranges for dates. Talks to her family and friends. Calls her on the phone. Asks questions daily, sometimes hourly. He is on her like a fly on doo-doo.
It doesnt work.Why? Well, for one reason she has found all the stimulation and excitement she supposedly needs in her new found love.
At a deeper level this is confusing enough for the cheating husband or cheating wife. Any additional input will be overwhelming and she is liable to close the door on the marriage even further. Plus, she is really looking for some stability, some solid centered core that will hold her firm when the...