Dear Jane, I know a lot of people as acquaintances but I dont seem to have close friends anymore. Everyone seems too busy. Sometimes Im too busy to sit and listen. But then I feel lonely and isolated. Does everyone feel this way?
As a life coach for over 20 years, I have noticed that my clients are looking for more than insights or pearls of wisdom; they want a guarantee that they can trust that they will not have to vie for someones attention, that they will be heard and cared about, and that they will be listened well to, without interruption and without feeling rushed.
Most of us dont consider ourselves isolated or friendless. Yet, almost 25% of Americans say they dont have even one close friend they confide in. What this tells me is that we may no longer expect friends to take the time to listen or to have the skills to help us reflect on our circumstances. In other words, intimacy, while valued highly as suggested by the price people are willing to pay for it professionally, is no longer a criterion we gauge our friendships by.
This puts more pressure on mates, who are as ill prepared and time crunched as everyone else. Many of my clients fight with...