Most smokers are afraid that they cant quit, that cigarettes are more powerful than they are. Actually this is fear from the fear, because if you are still smoking, how can you know that its hard without cigarettes? This is a result from your habit that is controlling you so much that it wont allow you to imagine how life can look like without smoking.
This point brings another question or excuse of yours. I love smoking; I love the ritual, etc. This is partially true, you love the time spent with yourself in that moment. But the cigarette will burn after two minutes, so why light it in the first place? Shell burn but the pleasure will only last for two minutes. It will last for two minutes and only two minutes. No more. This conditioning will continue until you are brave enough to interrupt this pattern.
First thing you have to do is to hate that youre controlled. How can you be a free human being, when someone or something controls you? This should be the first milestone for you. The rest are simply techniques that will help you substitute the smoking habit.
You cant stop smoking without thinking and trying to implement a non-smoker habit.
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