Ask the Marriage Maven: Help! My Husband’s Buddies are Butting into My Marriage
Q. My husband always wants to hang out with his boys. He used to hang out with them a lot before we got married, and I thought that after we got married things would change and that hed want to spend more time with me. Wrong!
It would be different if they did something productive, but all they do is sit around watching TV, playing video games, and listening to music. None of them have wives or serious girlfriends, except my husband so I know they talk about other women, too.
Weve only been married a year, and I already feel like were slipping into an old married couple relationship. A lot of fussing–and not much good communication. Im afraid we wont make it past year two. What can I do to make him want to spend more time with me?
J. N.
A. It is important that you and your husband spend a good amount of time together, especially as you guys are still learning what marriage is all about. But breaking up the boys club could be disastrous to your marriage. So I would not recommend telling your husband to cut his friends off completely, unless they are...