Parenting skills go beyond teaching your child to say, Please and Thank you. Teaching a child what behavior is expected is a daily process, and you will have many opportunities each day to steer your child in the right direction.
One key point to remember is to teach, not reprimand. It is easy to assume that your child is just being bad when, in fact, he just needs a lesson or two from you on the correct behavior. Be specific when you teach your child and remember that follow-up lessons are necessary.
Instead of saying, “Don’t be so discourteous!” you can say, “It’s impolite to belch at the table, but if you do, you should say ‘excuse me’.
Rephrase. When your child states her feelings in a less-than-polite way, you can rephrase what she already said in the way you find acceptable. So if she says, I hate this green stuff!” You can politely correct her by saying, “What you should say is, ‘I don’t like spinach’.”
Accept mistakes. When kids are young they will spill, drop and break things. It takes time to acquire the motor skills necessary to be neat and tidy. Children will...