I came across this quote today and wanted to share it with you. You may find that it relates to your marriage.
The difficultly with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but we must live with a character.
– Peter Devries
We can only appreciate the profundity of this statement if we understand what is meant by CHARACTER.
Personality is easy to understand. Your personality is how people experience you. Its your public persona.
But what is character? And why is character so crucial in your marriage?
Character is who you are when no one is watching.
Let me say that again so you can read it slowly and really digest it this time.
Character is who you are when no one is watching.
You see, when you and your spouse met, you met each others PERSONALITIES. You showed your spouse and you were shown by your spouse your public personas. Im not saying you tricked each other. Its just your personalityhow you display yourself to others.
But marriage lasts too long in too close quarters for anyone to sustain a public persona. Personalities eventually give way to an INNER SELF that gets revealed for the...