I talk with many women who don’t understand what brought their relationships to the point of needing therapy. After all, ‘they don’t ever argue with their husbands’. Well, of course that sends a huge, waving, red flag up. If you NEVER disagree, you probably aren’t being honest or worse – not saying anything.
Relationship silence. It’s a poison for you and your partner because usually when you’ve reached the point of silence – or shutting down – and just not wanting to deal with your partner on any type of meaningful communicative way…you’re in big trouble and could be headed for a break-up or separation.
How do I know if we are being silent?
You know that your relationship is suffering from silence when you haven’t debated with your partner about anything in the past few months – in fact, you haven’t had an interesting conversation about anything that is important to either of you in the past few months or weeks. You have disconnected. And either you or he initiated the silence in an effort to stop having to deal with judgments, criticisms, and other negative...