Being able to manage your anger is an important life skill. Everyone has anger, its a normal emotion, and, like all emotions its there to give us information. But how you respond to anger is the difference between living a good life and A nudge from the judge.
There are all sorts of things that trigger our anger during a day snarled traffic, a boss in a bad mood, an assistant who doesnt do what theyre supposed to do, a difficult colleague, kids who wont get ready for school on time, even a headache or an overheated room.
You can see how anger gives us information. For instance if youre getting heated up because the room temperature is too hot, or its too stuffy, then you know theres a problem that hopefully you can address. Getting some air in the room, lowering the temperature in the room, moving to another room, or taking off your jacket are some constructive ways to deal with this information. Lashing out at a colleague or making a poor decision because you cant think straight are not good ways of dealing with this. The problem, though, is how to calm down enough to think straight.
We tend to get the most feelings of anger with loved ones. Its ironic,...