Ive waited so long for love to come into my life, yet now that its here, Im depressed. I cant figure this out, complained Elayne in one of our phone counseling sessions. Todd is really terrific. Hes all Ive been wanting in a man open, caring, and emotionally available. I really think there is something wrong with me.
When did you start to feel depressed? I asked.
Well, I think it started last week right after we spent a wonderful weekend together.
What happened after the weekend?
It was Sunday evening. We had just come back from an early dinner, and Todd wanted to watch a movie with me on TV. I told him that I wanted to go to the gym because I hadnt worked out in a few days. He sounded disappointed in not watching the movie with me, so I didnt go to the gym. I stayed and watched the movie with him because I didnt want him to feel hurt and rejected.
And thats when you started to feel depressed?
Yes. Can it really be because I didnt go to the gym?
Well, I said, Its not exactly because you didnt go to the gym. You probably enjoyed watching the movie with him, right?
Right! A part of me did want to watch the movie...