Infidelity Excuse: I Fell Out of Love…and just love being in love
I find this dilemma rather common for younger couples, probably mid or late 30s and younger.
Usually one reports, falling out of love and is truly disturbed by this shift. He/she (and this is not merely a female problem!) wants to recapture those feelings.
This person has found a significant other who has stirred those dormant feelings and this person once again feels in love.
They are determined not to settle for a less than an ideal relationship, which means, of course, feeling the love feelings.
Here are some Key Points for this kind of affair. (The 6 others are outlined in my E-book.)
1. Unfortunately, our culture (movies, songs, romance novels, soap operas, romance comedies) teaches us that this is how its supposed to be. Falling in love is the norm the implication being, that if it doesnt happen, or if it goes away, something is wrong with you, your spouse or the marriage. A good relationship must first unlearn a great deal.
2. The person who was driven to find that loving feeling (reminds me of a song) usually experiences a high degree of guilt...