Weve all heard the clich The grass is always greener in our neighbors yard. What they dont tell you is that his grass still has to be mowed, watered, weeded, raked and fertilized.
The Buddha was the first to recognize that emotional pain can be just as real and debilitating as physical pain. Through careful observation he determined that people were good at spending time on their physical hygiene, but spent little or no time on mental hygiene. He believed that the key to finding happiness was in relieving ones emotional suffering and that the best way to reduce this suffering was by controlling our emotions.
Just as a good mother watches where her children go, the wise man watches where his mind goes. One of the harmful emotions that the Buddha taught we need to watch is envy.
Envy is time spent wanting what our neighbor has instead of time spent enjoying what we have. Now its true that when used properly envy can be a terrific motivator. The problem is that real envy — always wanting more and then discovering that more still isnt enough — is difficult to control.
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