Recently, a client came to me and told me, “I feel really discouraged. None of my wishes ever come true. No matter what I try, nothing ever comes of them. Theyre just wishes and hopes that never come true. Help!” He told me he’s tired of the “Same Old-Same Old”, but doesn’t know how to turn his wishes into reality. That is the subject for this column. Here’s my advice to him:
See your desires as goals, not wishes. Wishes imply that you need the Good Fairy to waive his magic wand and make it happen. No offense, but you cant always count on Good Fairies to come along when you need them. By seeing your desires as goals, you reframe them into something that you have more control over. They dont seem so distant this way. Lets look at how you can achieve these goals.
Change comes gradually.
Break your goals down into easy-to-do steps. For example, save up money to buy a condo; what are the steps youd need to take in order to begin to make this a reality? If you dont break down your goals into steps you can actually do, the goals will always elude you. No one can take on a huge goal like buying a condo...