Managing Caregiver Guilt: 5 Tips To Manage Guilt So Guilt Serves You, Not Imprisons You
Guilt is a common feeling in the landscape of care giving. Guilt can propel you to be the best you can be or it can immobilize you.
For caregivers, painful feelings — such as guilt, sadness and anger — are like any other pain. Its your bodys way of saying, ‘Pay attention.’ Just as the pain of a burned finger pulls your hand from the stove, so, too, guilt guides your actions and optimizes your health.
You have a picture of the “Ideal You” with values you hold and how you relate to yourself and others. Guilt often arises when theres a mismatch between your day-to-day choices and the choices the “Ideal You” would have made. The “Ideal You” may be a parent who attends all of the kids soccer games. Miss a game to take your dad to the doctor, and you think youre falling short.
You may have needs out of line with this “Ideal You.” You may believe that your own needs are insignificant, compared to the needs of your sick loved one. You then feel guilty when you even recognize your needs, much less act...