Married or Maiden Name? Behind the Last Name (Change)
Suffering From Identity Crisis?
Call it the precursor to the Mommy Wars, the name change debate can be just as ruthless, just as grievous, and that seemingly perfect solution, just as elusive.
Granted, for many women the name game is a non-issue. In fact, The Lucy Stone League, an organization named after a woman who refused to take her husband’s name when she married in 1855, estimates about 90 percent of women marrying today will drop their own name to take their husband’s. Hmmmm so is the great debate merely a grand illusion leftover from bra-burning second wave feminists of the 1970s?
Hardly. Because while most women say I do to taking their husbands last name, a great many of them struggle with the concept and the decision. A quick glance at some online forums dedicated to the topic affirmed that this is still a hot button issue with judgment, perceived or actual, running rampant on both sides of the proverbial fence.
Even those brides who didnt agonize over the decision are painfully aware of potential ramifications of their married name and judgments the other camp...