Mental Abuse – The 7 Most Important Things To Know
1. Sticks and stones wont break my bones and words wont leave any measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term harm. Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash.
Being told you are stupid, ugly, lazy or worthless is never acceptable. The first times you hear it, it will hurt, naturally. In time you may get used to hearing it from a partner. Thats when you start to internalise and believe it. When that happens you are doing the other persons work of putting you down for them. This is why your feelings of self-worth suffer increasingly over time.
The good news is that just as words have been used to bring you down, you can learn to harness the power of words to build you up and restore your confidence and belief in yourself.
2. You are always told that its your fault. Somehow, whatever happens, however it starts, the ultimate blame is always yours. Notice that we are talking ultimate blame here. The blaming partner will always tell you that their behaviour was caused by what you said or did. In fact, their argument runs along the...