Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from winning to searching. This isnt high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that arent YOUR idea of the perfect guythe one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask? Thats the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and dont want.
Women want a man to be confidentNOT an arrogant jerk. Theres a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you dont need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They dont want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They cant live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The strong silent type really isnt appealing at all. They think you probably dont have an original thought in your head and you probably havent heard a word they said, either...