Im sure many of you have heard that old Hallmark card adage that goes something like this: Parents give their children two great gifts—one is roots, the other is wings. This is what I address in this article.
As parents, we pray for our childrens safety, health and happiness. We do everything we know to help make these things happen for them.
At some point in our lives, we developed the principles and values that guide our life decisions. Our parents and/or caregivers certainly had influence over this but not complete determination. Some of us gladly adopted the values of our parents and continue to live by them today. Some of us so completely rejected our parents values that our decisions are determined by doing the exact opposite of what we believe our parents would do.
Most of us, however, are somewhere in the middle—we have accepted some of our parents values and rejected others. This is a normal process of development. As parents, though, we really fight that period in our childrens lives when they are attempting to differentiate themselves from us.
Maybe it is because we fear for their safety in their decision-making. Maybe we can...