Imagine holding a bouquet of balloons. And someone comes up to you and pops one with a pin. Then another. Then another. Pop! Slam! Bam! Youre shaken, shocked and need to take a few deep breaths to recover from the impact.
This is what it can be like to receive feedback. Whether its a work project, a creative project, or input on how you show up as a person, feedback can be jarring, painful and downright destructive. As a coach of the creative process, I have seen how feedback can devastate people and shut down their creative dreams. One man, probably in his seventies, showed up in a writing group I was leading. He had received negative feedback on his writing twenty-five years earlier. It had taken all that time to work up the courage to come back to his writing. It was sad but I was glad to see that his writing urge refused to be dampened.
Feedback is a necessary part of growing as a writer or artist, so its best to become graceful at receiving feedback. Here are a few steps that will help to gulp take feedback and use it to encourage you instead of deflating you.
First, get really good at asking for feedback from the right sources. Give yourself a...