As youve probably noticed, theres no shortage of relationship advice for women on how to get a boyfriend or deal with relationship problems. The lack seems to be somewhere in the middle: how do you avoid bad relationships in the first place?
Know who youre looking for
When it comes to our love lives, most of us spend way too much time trying to be attractive to men in general and not nearly enough on deciding what type of man were really trying to attract. Im not counting those fantasies about the tall, dark, and handsome wealthy investment banker who spends his weekends pirating on the high seas, either. I mean really thinking about the important character attributes of your ideal guy.
Watch out for major contradictions in your expectations, too. For instance, if you love the strong silent type, dont complain when your macho man has a hard time sharing his feelings.
Establish your boundaries
Boundaries, popularly known as deal breakers, are your signals to leave a relationship ASAP. Theyre things like physical abuse, criminal background, and addictions.
Heres the thing, though: you need to decide what your boundaries are before you get...