In the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to work out problems. Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just dont see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling really heard and understood.
While there are some couples that just naturally see things the same way, most people have a really hard time seeing things through the other persons eyes. What often happens when they communicate is that each person tries to get the other person to see things his or her way. Instead of solving the problem, each is trying to have control over how the other person sees things. This often leads to more conflict and frustration.
While I am not suggesting that couples stop communicating over problems and issues, I am offering an additional way of resolving conflict: taking loving action in your own behalf.
This form of conflict resolution is about action rather than talk. Following are some of the actions you can take that may make a world of difference in your relationship.
LOVING ACTIONS
1. Choose to be compassionate toward yourself and your...