Mark sought my help because he was thinking of leaving his wife, Linda. He had not been feeling in love with Linda for a long time, but they had two children and he really didnt want to break up the family.
Mark, I asked, Were you ever in love with Linda?
Yes, at the beginning of our relationship.
Then what happened?
Linda seemed to get really insecure once I started my new business and had long work days. Even though I think I gave her a lot of attention on the weekends, she started getting angry pretty much every day. Then after our son was born, she seemed even more unhappy and irritable. She gets mean when shes angry and I just dont find that appealing. I dont feel close to her anymore.
Have you said anything to her about this? I asked.
No, he replied. She already seems so unhappy. I dont want to hurt her feelings.
So how do you handle it?
I guess I just sort of shut down and pretend that everything is okay. But Im spending more and more time at work because I dont like being at home and recently I met another woman that Im attracted to. I realize Ive got to do something about this.
Do you really think that...