“Puer Aeternus” the eternal adolescent, the semipternal Peter pan is a phenomenon often associated with pathological narcissism. People who refuse to grow up strike others as self-centred and aloof, petulant and brattish, haughty and demanding in short: as childish or infantile.
The narcissist is a partial adult. He seeks to avoid adulthood. Infantilisation the discrepancy between one’s advanced chronological age and one’s retarded behaviour, cognition, and emotional development is the narcissist’s preferred art form. Some narcissists even use a childish tone of voice occasionally and adopt a toddler’s body language.
But most narcissist resort to more subtle means.
They reject or avoid adult chores and functions. They refrain from acquiring adult skills (such as driving) or an adult’s formal education. They evade adult responsibilities towards others, including and especially towards their nearest and dearest. They hold no steady jobs, never get married, raise no family, cultivate no roots, maintain no real friendships or meaningful relationships.
Many a narcissist remains attached to his (or her) family...