Here’s how phobias work.
There are two parts to your mind – one that thinks, and one that feels.
The thinking part is the conscious, rational mind that you are using now as you read this.
The feeling part is the unconscious, emotional mind. It takes care of automatic tasks like regulating the heart, controlling pain and managing our instincts.
It’s the unconscious mind that is programmed to act instinctively in times of danger. It reacts very fast – making you run or fight – rather than allowing your thinking mind to philosophize while you are attacked by a tiger. This has great survival value.
The unconscious mind is also a very fast learner. The same emergency route that can bypass the rational mind in times of danger can also stamp strong emotional experiences (traumatic ones) in the unconscious mind. This makes evolutionary sense – it ensures that we have vivid imprints of the things that threaten us.
And just as we have two minds, so we have two memory systems: one for the facts and one for the emotions that may or may not go with those facts.
Sometimes, when a person experiences a very...