All Alone in Here
Several years ago I had a quiet but intense experience at the wedding of a close friend. I was early, and as I sat at my table I watched the other guests entering the room. One came in elated, dancing like a performer on stage. Another was withdrawn, inward, as if mulling over some sadness or pain. Some were eating, some talking, some laughing and some sitting quietly.
But what I saw with an almost painful intensity was that each one of us, no matter what we were doing or with whom we were doing it, was essentially in our own world. Not necessarily lonely, but alone, our thoughts, longings, our selves on some core level separate from everyone around us.
Once, many years ago, my four-year-old cousin was standing in the living room with her mother and grandmother when she suddenly burst out, Im all alone in here! When her mother hastened to reassure her that they were right there with her in the room, she responded, No, in here. Im all alone in here.
Every human being experiences this essential aloneness. Sometimes were not aware of it at all, and sometimes the awareness, like it was for my little cousin, is profound. But...