What You Say Is Revealing But What Do You Really Want?
Conversations can be revealing, can’t they?
The words we use, the way we use our bodies to show our passion and enthusiasm or the uncomfortable wriggling and writhing as we wrestle with what we yearn for – are all cues to our progress and how we feel we’re doing on our chosen path.
In the twenty years (combined) that Jo and I have coached for we seen people striving for tangible goals. For example, someone may say they want to make more money or become the kind of person that can hold down a relationship.
One of the revealing things I hear when people speak to me about their desires is that they often speak with ‘ownership.’ Sometimes they are quite literally saying ‘I want success to be mine’.
But is this really what they want?
In my view, people don’t want to own a successful relationship. They want success in relating to another human being.
I’ve also observed that people don’t really want to make more money for monies sake, they want to make money from work which has meaning and purpose and that they find...